Sometimes People Leave You Halfway Through the Woods

Eric Griggs
2 min readOct 21, 2021
My nonagenarian Great Aunt Margaret, friend-maker par excellence & occasional wearer of jaunty hats. Original image copyright © 2021, the author

A friend wrote about his buddy’s death and here’s how I responded:

“I too have been fortunate enough, John, to lead a life cast with many magnificent friends who stick around. That’s why I wince when I read your post -- for I sympathize with the pain.

My grandmother was much the same as us, my own Rock and my very best friend. Close friends she made easily and often; then she hung on to these like telemarketers with extended auto warranties to peddle.

And yet somehow, she found a way to be grateful and gracious whenever one of her old friend's time came to exit the stage. Applaud through the tears, it seems -- that's OUR lot, those of us who survive our buddies. A lesson I learned from her.

Her sister, my great aunt Margaret, is the same way too -- with one additional skill. At 92 years old and blind, she keeps right on making new friends as she lives on. Margaret possesses and knows the full value of a kind, truly friendly heart. It's quite easy for her. I mean -- LOOK AT THAT HAT!

Be like Granny and Margaret, both "friend-full" and resilient. Taking gratitude and grief in equal measure is a tough recipe, but worth the price. It’s not the only trick my Granny taught me! Hit me up when you need a friend.
Oh, and John . . . a jaunty hat never hurts!”

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Eric Griggs

Juxtaposeur, technical analyst, process engineer, poet wordsmith, INTJ, Anansi, MBTI certified practitioner & team-builder, certifiable fabulist & Uppity Queer™